(Pondering On Anxiety: http://corimuscounseling.blogspot.hk/2015/07/pondering-on-anxiety.html)
Certainly there are different ways for us to confront anxiety.
“Stress is the trash of modern life — we all generate it but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.” Terri Guillemets
- Regularly Check Our Status
It is difficult to always catch up with our anxiety level, but it also does not give us the excuse to ignore it. Set a time, e.g. an hour or more (depending on our needs) at the weekend, as we check our emotional status. We can have the “personal space” on the focused and honest reflection, or we share our feelings within a group.
Perhaps we may complain it is hard for us to “detect” the vague anxiety thing. Then we may look out for the outer sources causing anxiety – stress, pressure. Particularly when we are under hectic schedule/encounter, we shall never overestimate own power on conquering the outer negativity – sometimes they turn to be the inner destruction.
- Take Action to Deal with Anxiety
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
It is true that you can never make your anxiety disappear. There is no cure. The point of attending to our anxiety is that upon realization of the existing compiling anxiety, we have a better chance to alleviate its level, and it matters we take action NOW.
There are the different ways we can do, alone or with the others to de-stress, e.g. a) Engage in the de-stressing activities b) get some lone time c) Express. You may sometimes find the particular method useful, whereas the other as not applicable, or you have come up with your own ways of doing so. This is ok. The most important thing is you do TAKE ACTION.
- Step by Step, Bits by Bits.
If the action you intend to take is impossible for you, or you do not find the right angle to cut at, then try doing it slowly. For instance, if you fail to find the personal time, try to wake up 15 minutes earlier in the morning, and take the extra time completely to yourself. Sit on bed, and do nothing. You surely have the total 15 “own minutes”.
- De-stress 1: Engage in the Stress-free Activities
We can turn to some activities which are less mind demanding, e.g. listening to the music, yoga, drawing, etc. Also, the personal interests can be a very useful way for us to level down our stress. First, it is something we personally enjoy doing; second, often they help us unplug from the demanding work, and recharge via their bringing of fun and motivation, as well as giving us chances on gathering thoughts.
- De-stress 2: Get Some Lone Time
Like what I have previously, (http://corimuscounseling.blogspot.hk/2015/06/have-some-lone-time.html) being alone does have its beauty. When we feel our emotions/behavior as too much easily triggered by the outer stimuli/people, it’s time for us to set distance between the others and us – find our voices instead of others’ voices in our heads.
- De-stress 3: Express the Self
Being able to speak out your mind is a good way of releasing the long held stress/pressure. Through expressing, one can organize the thoughts, release the mixed emotions, and so put down negativity, and instead gain empowerment. For those who may hope someone to understand the situation, it is good to have someone to speak to. Or writing a journal can also be a good channel on expressing self on your own.
- It’s time to act on our own, instead of being led by the others
“People who are prone to anxiety are nearly always people-pleasers who fear conflict and negative feelings like anger. When you feel upset, you sweep your problems under the rug because you don’t want to upset anyone. You do this so quickly and automatically that you’re not even aware you’re doing it.” David D. Burns
From under the control of the “how others act – we react/respond” mechanism, let us attempt to alter it to “we act – others’ acceptance” routine. We are controlled by no one else by us, and so we lead our own minds and feelings to what we want to achieve, instead of depending on others’ judgment/recognition.
When we are overwhelmed by boss’ picks at the different times, why not turn to the self, that perhaps there are certain changes which can be made by us. If we are not certain what they are, then seek to discuss openly with the boss.
If you have long suffered from the unbalanced relationship, while blaming the others, it is not right either you remain silent and try to eat things up. You have your own part of expressing your displeasure, and intend to find a way as both persons settle well in the relationship.
It is not about what the others should do, yet what we shall do. In this way we are free from the negative influences caused by others’ commentary/behavior, in other words limit the unnecessary anxiety.
These are some of the ways I think of which can help us face anxiety. I believe that there are many more, and it is important that we FIND OUR OWN WAYS. I hope that the sharing may relate to you in some ways, or stimulate your own exploration to your journey.
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